My Labor Experience

Well here’s the post everyone’s been waiting for. I’m going to start from the very beginning:

At 41 weeks, Jacob and I started doing everything, literally EVERYTHING, to induce my labor. From eating spicy food, going on bumpy rides every single day, walking until my feet felt like they would fall off (BTW I didn’t swell during my entire pregnancy because I drank plenty of water), doing the dirty, acupressure, massages, bananas, yoga, stripping my membranes (twice!), whatever you can think of, we did it, and NOTHING WORKED. So my conclusion on inducing labor based on my personal experience is that nothing can induce labor, your baby comes whenever he/she decides to come.

I was scheduled to be induced Monday morning, and as much as I was opting not to be induced, I was going to let them because one, it would be safer for the baby not to exceed 42 weeks in utero, and two I would be more than ready at that point for Natalia to be here. Fortunately my water finally broke the Friday afternoon prior to my induction date. At first I wasn’t sure if it broke or not, so I asked my mom what it felt like. She said it feels like you’re uncontrollably peeing on yourself. Soon after that, about 15 minutes, I was confirmed of my water breaking because liquid started pouring out, lol. I didn’t call the Doctor nor did I go to the hospital. I waited until I started having contractions 5-10 apart for an hour like my doctors instructed, which didn’t happen until 18 hours later. Bad idea for me to not go in right away because of the risk of infection, but how was I supposed to know? This is my first time having a baby, and BOTH of my GYN’s told me not to come in until I started having contractions. There was no mention of my water breaking. And since I’m totally healthy, I didn’t think there was any reason for me or my baby to develop an “infection”. According to what I researched, the vaginal exams are what cause infections in the first place, which makes complete sense to me.

So the next morning around 6am I started having mild contractions, then they increased in pain and decreased in time apart, so by 8 am Jacob and I were on our way to the hospital. When we got there the nurses asked me if my water broke & I told them yes it did, yesterday afternoon. They all looked at me like I was crazy and asked why I waited so long to come in. I told them that I didn’t feel the need to come in because everything seemed fine and that my Doctor told me not to come in until I was having contractions, so I was simply following instructions. Well, when they started my IV they told me they were going to start me on antibiotics. In shock I asked “for what?” And the nurse said “the GBS that you’re positive for”. I was in total disbelief and said “excuse me, but what in the world are you talking about?” She explained to me that I was positive for Group B Strep, (the test they give you when you’re 36 weeks) and that the baby has been swimming in infected amniotic fluid for the entire time since my water broke. GBS (Group B Strep) is a bacteria that is carried by both men and women, that does not affect adults but can be very harmful for unborn babies, which is why pregnant women ate tested for it at 36 weeks. Men will never know if they have it or not because they will never be tested for it since they obviously can’t get pregnant. Well when I took the test, nothing was ever mentioned about it after that, so I assumed I was negative. I would expect a Doctor to tell you the results of your tests, ESPECIALLY if you’re positive for it, don’t you?! So yeah, I was carrying this infection and had no idea about it. I was infuriated by this new found information because now my baby is at risk. If I would’ve known about this infection, I would’ve been at the hospital the day before when my water broke.

Anyways, once your water breaks you have 24 hours to get the baby out or it can become something serious. So I had 6 hours to deliver my daughter and I was only 2 cm dilated (and have been for two weeks!). They started me on pitocin right away. 2 hours later they checked my cervix to find that I was still only 2 cm dilated, so a c-section was the final decision. At first I wanted to cry because I felt cheated out of my wanting for a natural delivery since I was never informed about this infection that could be potentially fatal to my unborn daughter. I also was not so phsyched about having such a dramatic surgery, especially since I’ve never had surgery of any kind. I asked the nurses if they had c-sections and even asked if I could see their scars because I also wasn’t very excited about having such a large scar on my belly. One of the young nurses showed me not her scar because it was so low, but pulled her shirt up just to show me that the scar was below her panty line. I couldn’t even see it! And she was so skinny you wouldn’t even be able to tell that she had a baby, and she had 2! So that made me feel A LOT better about it. So on we went with the procedure.

They had me fill out all kinds of forms and explained to Jacob and I what would be happening. He had to change into scrubs so he could be there with me while the doctors carried me into the operation room so they could numb me from the waist down. They gave me a spinal anesthetic that literally took 5 seconds to kick in. I felt a rush of a numbing sensation that actually felt really good, lol! I felt very shaky though shortly afterwards which I didn’t like too much. Also, the shot they gave me was a MUCH smaller needle than that of the epidural, which I was very happy about because that was the very reason I had decided I wasn’t going to have an epidural if this would’ve happened naturally.

They cut me open and tugged, pushed and pulled (which I could feel a lot of although it didn’t hurt, it was just a lot of pressure) and then out came the baby, 7lbs. and 14oz. of her. About a minute later I heard her first cry and was in tears at the amazing sound that I had waited 9 long months to hear. Jacob cried with me and we were both very happy. However, because she was infected, they took her from us right away. I got to see her and kiss her cheek before she left and dad asked to see her hair because she was wearing a cap. When they took it off, we were amazed to see a head full of dark hair, just like I dreamed about!

So they took me to the recovery room while we waited to hear from the doctor’s what was going on with Natalia. Now there are a lot of details to what was happening between the surgery and the end, so I’m just going to make the long story short: The doctors were concerned about her breathing patterns. They ran blood tests and white blood cell tests which came back triple the amount of what was normal, meaning that her body was already building white blood cells to fight off whatever infection she had. They were also concerned about some “seizure-like episodes” that she was supposedly having which made the nurses decide to transfer her to Wolfson Children’s Hospital in Jacksonville because they were a small town hospital that did not have all the tools needed to run the tests they wanted her to have. They weren’t sure what she was doing because she’s a  newborn, hence their wanting to run tests just to make sure she was acting normal. I was completely devastated because the doctors made it seem like she was having all these problems, they even mentioned a possibility of meningitis. I cried so hard and asked “what are they going to do to my baby?!” Jacob tried his hardest to keep his composure because I was so upset about everything and then he broke down and started crying with me.

Natalia went through so much in the first days of her life in the outside world. She IV’s since she was born, she had all kinds of tests run on her, she had MRI’s she had her spine tapped, all kinds of bullshit. I know that they were just trying to be on the safe side, but what new mom wants to see her first baby go through all this trauma?! Anyways, in the end Natalia was completely fine. They ran all these tests just to find nothing wrong with her. She just had an infection and the antibiotics they started me on before the surgery killed it just in time. So we went through all this heartache for nothing. It was very crazy. We ended up being in the hospital for 5 days before finally bringing her home.I was in the hospital for 3 days recovering from the surgery. They transferred Natalia on my second day of recovery so I couldn’t even go to the hospital to be with my baby until the next day. Jacob had to drive from Lake City to Jacksonville, back to Lake City to pick me up, back to Jacksonville so we could be at the hospital every day and then finally back to Lake City so we could come home, and then he had to drive back so he could go home, lol! Lots and lots of driving.

At the end of the day, there were a lot of lessons learned from this entire experience. Although it was scary, it was very worth it and I am happy to say that I am a new mom to a very happy and healthy baby girl. According to her pediatrician she eats better than the average baby for her size and is growing at a great rate. She is such a good baby, hardly ever cries unless she needs something. She is always very content and has such a well-developed personality already. She’s definitely mommy and daddy’s little diva girl!

I also would like to mention that my perspective about c-sections have dramatically changed since I underwent the surgery. I actually prefer to have the c-section because I didn’t have to feel any pain WHATSOEVER, everything went by so quick it was unbelievable. The entire procedure took a total of 55 minutes. No contractions, no pain, GREAT pain meds during and afterwards lol, and my little girls head did not get squished and my vagina didn’t rip! The scar is barely noticeable, looks like a pen line just below my bikini line and nobody will ever be able to see it unless I show them, which means I can still wear my bikini this summer! Best of all, this entire event brought me and Jacob closer together and he loves me more now than ever before since having to be there with me and watching me go through all of this craziness. I definitely want to share my story because I think it’s well worth mentioning to people. Always prepare for the worst because you never know what’s going to happen, and always be optimistic about negative things that you have no control over because they are not always as bad as they seem.

Today my baby girl is 2 weeks and 3 days old and she is making the cutest “ooh” and “ahh” sounds, she picks her head up all by herself to look around because she wants to see everything, she will NOT fall asleep without being held, so she’s already spoiled, lol! (Thanks Jacob!)

One more thing I want to add before I conclude my super long birth story; because Natalia was taken from me right from the beginning, we didn’t get to experience the first bonding of mother and baby to establish breastfeeding, which is essential! And I am completely against giving my baby formula for several reasons. One because I’m pro-natural, two because I don’t feel that formula gives babies everything they need like breast milk does, three because of all the side effects that come from formula fed babies that I’ve researched, such as being more prone to obesity and becoming sick with diseases, and four because although the formula feeds the baby for longer periods of time (formula fed babies eat 6-10 times a day vs. breastfed babies eat 8-12 times a day) which means the formula “sits” in their stomachs and that just reminds me of McDonald’s food which is totally gross in my opinion. I already decided I wanted to breastfeed exclusively. Well since I didn’t get to breastfeed for the first week, I didn’t establish a good milk supply, so I couldn’t produce enough milk to feed my baby. Not only that but the doctors shoved bottles and pacifiers in my newborn baby’s mouth which pissed me the **** off! If they needed to syringe feed her then okay, but I was not about the pacifiers or bottles because of nipple confusion. So Natalia had a difficult time latching on for the first week and a half of our being together. It was making me sore and I was to the point where I was about to just give up all together. But then I decided “screw that!” I’m not going to give up because I WANT this for my baby, so I’m going to MAKE SURE it happens, no matter what it takes. If I have to breastfeed her every half hour then so be it. I consulted with a lactation specialist who was so inspired by my determination and told me that that’s what it takes, you have to really want to breastfeed for it to work out, which is what I truly want, exclusively. I only will use formula if I have to supplement, but otherwise I want to strictly breastfeed my baby mostly because it’s the healthiest for her, but also because it does establish a bonding relationship with you and your baby that just feels like pure love, and I want that with me and Natalia. So I have a $700 hospital grade breast pump that I’m using FOR FREE for a week-2 weeks just because my lactation specialist wants to help me because she sees how bad I want this. Unfortunately Natalia and I had a rough start, but now that things are back to normal we are going to work this out to both of our benefits. My advice to anybody else out there with this problem is to never give up on the things that you truly want. I am proud to say that Natalia has gotten MUCH better about latching on (although she still needs some improvement) and I am finally being able to produce enough milk to catch up with her needs. (:

Bringing Natalia Home ❤

Natalia & I Now (:

TV Commercial That Made Me Wonder…

I rarely ever watch T.V. and when I do, I usually just watch Family Guy at night before I go to bed for their mass reality sarcasm, and I usually end up falling asleep before the show is over anyway. Well, last night I saw a direct TV commercial that advertised a satellite box that records up to 2,000 hours of television shows. Yep, that’s right: 2,000, 2-0-0-0, two-thousand hours. So I thought to myself, wow that’s a whole freakin’ lot of television! And then I did the math in my head: If a person watches one hour of T.V. a day (which I can’t imagine anybody watching more than that unless they have no life), every single day, that’s 365 hours of T.V. in one year. So that would mean that this satellite box can record about 2 and a half years’ worth of television shows. I’m sorry but this really baffles me. How could someone seriously watch THAT much T.V.?! It’s ridiculous if you ask me! I don’t even watch T.V. every day because I don’t think there is anything interesting on there anyway. Every show is the same, just different people and different stories; some kind of drama going on and people commenting on it. Even the news is like that, and just about every single thing on T.V. is fake anyways! No wonder people have become so lazy. More than half of the American population spend more time watching T.V. then they do spending time outside. According to statisticbrain.com, the average person spend 5 hours and 11 minutes watching television a day. Studies show that violence, drugs and other issues are associated with the daily viewing of television. No wonder, look at all the T.V. shows, the way they act, the things they say, and the commercials they show every 15 minutes that advertise all kinds of unnecessary crap used to persuade us into spending our hard earned money. The contradictory advertisements of the promotion of selling cigarettes and then the commercials that talk about how bad they are for you. The fact that illicit drugs are illegal, yet they come up with products that promote the illicit illegal drugs (i.e. Cocaine, the newest energy drink). The commercials that advertise all these medical products that are sold to “fix” a problem (that could otherwise be healed naturally if you bothered to research it) and all the terrible side effects that come along with them that nobody pays attention to. What do you think your children are watching? Have you seen any of the children’s shows that you let them watch lately? Look at what the media is teaching your children, how to act, how to talk, how to treat their parents and other children around them. It just seems to be getting worse and worse about teaching our kids how to behave in society. Daily television watching relates to countless health problems including obesity. Then they advertise all the super model celebrities with “dream bodies” (which ARE photo-shopped) to make you feel that much worse about yourself for sitting there watching that shit in the first place!

I personally think that there is WAY more to life than staring at a screen being brainwashed and programmed by nonsense. Because that’s what T.V. does, it programs you to think that the way those people act are how people act in real life, and then people in real life start acting like the people they see on T.V. Remember that Scooby Doo movie with the actual real people, where they discovered the lab that had “programs” on T.V. that taught people how to act? That’s a subliminal message and it is EXACTLY what happens in our society these days. People are so consumed by what they see on T.V. that they don’t even realize how programmed they really are. Like the guy in this youtube video says, “You think like a tube, you act like a tube, you eat like a tube, you teach your children how to be a tube, you are a tube!” (Referring to T.V.) You ever see those people who seem to be hypnotized by T.V.? They watch it all day every single day like it’s air to breath? Crazy right?! Sadly, there really are people out there who live like that. They are completely brainwashed by the box. I found this guy’s article on the internet and he explains the mass media television brainwashing topic better than anyone I’ve read about so far. Here’s an excerpt that might inspire you to read his article:

If the angle is right, you might catch your own reflection in the screen. Jaw slightly open, lips relaxed into a smile. The blank stare of a television zombie. This is {soft} brainwashing, even more effective because its victims go about their lives unaware of what is being done to them. Television, with its reach into nearly every American home, creates the basis for the mass brainwashing of citizens, like you.

Here is another excerpt from another related article about another guy’s personal thoughts on T.V. that I found quite intriguing:

Television is not real.
Nothing we see on the television is based on or presented to us in a realistic setting. Sure, they try really hard to convince us that it’s real, but what is reality? Reality is what we make of it. Reality is the color of the walls in your bedroom; reality is the itch on your back that you just can’t reach; reality, to me, is the notion that marriage is over rated; reality is the fact that I’m not worried about my daughter getting stung by a bee or falling down the stairs, because those things are going to happen; Reality is the fact that I’m actually afraid of when she goes to kindergarten and has to pass her Hello Kitty backpack through a fucking metal detector.

So do yourselves a favor and stop watching so much T.V. It does NOTHING for you, in fact it makes you stupid, unaware, lazy, as well as a bunch of other bad things. Go outside in the fresh air and take control of your own mind instead of allowing it to be influenced by a bunch of bullshit. Get creative, learn about things you’ve never known about, pay attention to your surroundings that you probably never even notice, enjoy life and live it outside of the box (T.V.) spend time with your family, friends, children and pets. There’s a lot more out there, more than you can imagine, if you would just turn that damn T.V. off.

Related Articles:
http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/tv-movies/americans-spend-34-hours-week-watching-tv-nielsen-numbers-article-1.1162285

http://www.statisticbrain.com/television-watching-statistics/

http://www.csun.edu/science/health/docs/tv&health.html

http://rense.com/general63/traid.htm

http://www.salon.com/2012/10/30/does_tv_actually_brainwash_americans/

http://www.turnoffyourtv.com/poemsessays/brainwashedjerseymike.html

http://www.cracked.com/article_16656_6-brainwashing-techniques-theyre-using-you-right-now.html

Prenatal Yoga

Since I became pregnant, I knew I had to get into some kind of exercise routine to keep me fit while I gained extra weight. What better kind of exercise to do than yoga?! It’s not vigorous, all you do is stretch a breath deep, you do lightweight exercise while at the same time you pump blood, relieve the tenseness in your muscles, and you get an effective work out. I don’t know what it is about yoga, but every time I do it I feel like a million bucks; like a brand new person. It is an amazing and indescribable feeling. It’s like I can’t even go more than two days without doing it anymore because my body begs me to work it out. It’s gotten so used to this positive energy feeling that it asks for it every day. I love it! It’s rejuvenating, relaxing, and it preps me for labor.

Yoga is spiritual and physical. Not only does it make me feel good, but it’s healthy for my soul and my body. There are many physical benefits for this type of exercise. “Yoga provides a safe and nurturing system of overall health for the pregnant woman and child,” says Eric Small, a certified Iyengar yoga instructor and director of the Beverly Hills Iyengar Studio in Beverly Hills, California. It relieves stress in all areas of the body, as well as helping reposition the growing fetus according to various yoga positions. It’s perfect for exiting all the negative emotions and tension in your heart and body and connects you with your spirit.

For me, yoga helps me to relax my mind, eases my sporadic body aches, get in tuned with my inner being, and it connects me with my baby. I feel like she can feel me performing the yoga and it relaxes her. I can just tell she loves when I do it. This exercise regimen is going to provide all the strength and emotional well being that I’m going to need when I get ready to have this baby girl. I’m very optimistic about my upcoming labor journey. I have a sense of confidence that my instincts are going to kick in right away, that I’m going to know exactly what I need to do. My mind, body, and spirit as well as the universe and it’s gravitational forces are going to help me to bring this baby into the world speedy and easily.

Here is the Prenatal Yoga Video on YouTube that I watch daily. It will change your life!

Reference: http://yoginiology.com/at-home-yoga-for-the-mommy-to-be/